tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13260101.post3138232499174066796..comments2023-03-30T17:42:04.347+05:30Comments on Rage & Placidity: What's so special?Prahalathanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04781266206168522385noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13260101.post-41036070141332536982008-05-05T21:58:00.000+05:302008-05-05T21:58:00.000+05:30@ Aravindha ChellappaI to believe 'The best thing ...@ Aravindha Chellappa<BR/><BR/>I to believe 'The best thing would be to share and encourage the other person to have the same level of affection with all the relationships as were before marriage and vice-versa' :)Prahalathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04781266206168522385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13260101.post-63777843230940007292008-04-13T23:29:00.000+05:302008-04-13T23:29:00.000+05:30Hello Prahalathan,I don't think Marriage is just a...Hello Prahalathan,<BR/><BR/>I don't think Marriage is just a 'single event' - it is the whole process involved in a chain of events both pre- and post- knot-tying event. <BR/><BR/>Most marriages alter the dynamics of every other relationship, primarily because of the way that the term 'ego' dominates any relationship. It is, ofcourse the people who enter the frame after the knot-tying event, who "think" they have a better share in their relationship with the other person, than how-many-ever good/close friends/relatives he/she might have. It is mainly the characteristic of the person(s) involved in the knot-tying.<BR/><BR/>Not every marriage results in a change of all the other relationships in their respective lives. At the same time not every marriage keeps the relationships at the same level both before and after marriage.<BR/><BR/>I guess you might see 'possessiveness' more than anything that results in the loss of many relationships after marriage. <BR/><BR/>[Ofcourse I would like to discuss this in detail, but there are not enough characters to put together in this blog]<BR/><BR/>Finally, ""Will I change too? Will I realize the change?""<BR/><BR/>Answer: It depends on you. The best thing would be to share and<BR/>encourage the other person to have the same level of affection with all the relationships as were before marriage and vice-versa.<BR/><BR/>It is always better to "give" than "to receive" - it works in marriage too. <BR/><BR/>(I was just talking about marriages in india alone, so I am considering the stereotype of our society wherein people are 'assumed' to get married, and if they don't, the way they are treated if they stay single for their lives, is different. So, if you are a person who wants to stay single forever, then it is a whole another topic of discussion...)A Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14010194867046294636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13260101.post-31994420395479143662008-03-17T01:48:00.000+05:302008-03-17T01:48:00.000+05:30@ RAYSI missed one line (added it now). Point is I...@ RAYS<BR/>I missed one line (added it now). Point is I don't wanna 'change' like most people...<BR/><BR/>@ Suren<BR/>Happy to be single man...<BR/>Happier still to have a family that won't push me into marriage for another 3-4 years atleastPrahalathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04781266206168522385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13260101.post-27906596729245346732008-03-16T22:10:00.000+05:302008-03-16T22:10:00.000+05:30enna aachu sudden ah ? veetla paint adikiraangalaa...enna aachu sudden ah ? veetla paint adikiraangalaaaa ???<BR/>intha matter ku answer therinjita naatla 99% perchanai solve aagidum paSurendranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09923642445083946770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13260101.post-16689146308438083842008-03-10T20:51:00.000+05:302008-03-10T20:51:00.000+05:30Yes you will realise the change you doofus. We're ...Yes you will realise the change you doofus. We're all waiting for that day you know why ;-)Rumshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14468447924929887124noreply@blogger.com