Saturday, March 08, 2008

What's so special?

Marriage an inevitable part of life for most people...

But, Is the change in people post-marriage, inevitable too?

How does a single event, important though it might be, alter the dynamics of every other relationship... Both Family & friends? How is it that suddenly some new relationships become more important than many older ones?

Do people realize the change?

Will I change too?

Will I realize the change?

5 comments:

R A Y S said...

Yes you will realise the change you doofus. We're all waiting for that day you know why ;-)

suren said...

enna aachu sudden ah ? veetla paint adikiraangalaaaa ???
intha matter ku answer therinjita naatla 99% perchanai solve aagidum pa

Prahalathan said...

@ RAYS
I missed one line (added it now). Point is I don't wanna 'change' like most people...

@ Suren
Happy to be single man...
Happier still to have a family that won't push me into marriage for another 3-4 years atleast

Aravindha Chellappa said...

Hello Prahalathan,

I don't think Marriage is just a 'single event' - it is the whole process involved in a chain of events both pre- and post- knot-tying event.

Most marriages alter the dynamics of every other relationship, primarily because of the way that the term 'ego' dominates any relationship. It is, ofcourse the people who enter the frame after the knot-tying event, who "think" they have a better share in their relationship with the other person, than how-many-ever good/close friends/relatives he/she might have. It is mainly the characteristic of the person(s) involved in the knot-tying.

Not every marriage results in a change of all the other relationships in their respective lives. At the same time not every marriage keeps the relationships at the same level both before and after marriage.

I guess you might see 'possessiveness' more than anything that results in the loss of many relationships after marriage.

[Ofcourse I would like to discuss this in detail, but there are not enough characters to put together in this blog]

Finally, ""Will I change too? Will I realize the change?""

Answer: It depends on you. The best thing would be to share and
encourage the other person to have the same level of affection with all the relationships as were before marriage and vice-versa.

It is always better to "give" than "to receive" - it works in marriage too.

(I was just talking about marriages in india alone, so I am considering the stereotype of our society wherein people are 'assumed' to get married, and if they don't, the way they are treated if they stay single for their lives, is different. So, if you are a person who wants to stay single forever, then it is a whole another topic of discussion...)

Prahalathan said...

@ Aravindha Chellappa

I to believe 'The best thing would be to share and encourage the other person to have the same level of affection with all the relationships as were before marriage and vice-versa' :)